"I'm not a victim, she's an abuser": Masculinity, victimization, and protection orders

Alesha Durfee

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Previous research analyzing masculinity and domestic violence has focused on men's accounts of the violence they have committed; relatively little research has focused on men's accounts of victimization. This article critically examines how men negotiate the competing discourses of victimization, hegemonic masculinity, and stereotypes about domestic violence when filing for a domestic violence protection order against a woman partner. Three themes related to gender and victimization emerged from the men's narratives. First, the men's descriptions of the violence they had experienced focused on their power and control over their intimate partner. Second, the men described their active resistance to the abuse but were careful to note that their actions were not "abusive" and that they were not the "abusers." Finally, although most of the men described both verbal and physical abuse, most did not express a fear of their partner. I discuss the results of this analysis in the context of the recent increase in men claiming victimization in a number of realms.

Original languageEnglish (US)
Pages (from-to)316-334
Number of pages19
JournalGender and Society
Issue number3
StatePublished - Jun 2011


  • domestic violence
  • masculinity
  • narrative
  • protection order

ASJC Scopus subject areas

  • Gender Studies
  • Arts and Humanities (miscellaneous)
  • Sociology and Political Science


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